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She’s here! Almost 4 weeks later…

I have honestly tried to sit down and write my birthing story just about daily for 4 weeks. Obviously that hasn’t happened! And to be honest it’s not going to happen in depth today because she is going to wake up to eat any second.

So for now … Our precious baby girl R was born by c-section on 11/4 (I was 39 weeks). She was 10lbs 4oz of love, and 21.5 inches long. It seems like her birth weight was a bit inflated from the IV fluids I was getting because it took her about 3 weeks to get back to her birth weight even though she was eating well.

I have about a million things to say about her (and I really want to record this early development stuff because you just know I’ll forget it all by tomorrow) and I have so much to say about breastfeeding and how hard it was for us to get started. But those things will wait. For now… some pictures of our sweet R, who will be 4 weeks old tomorrow!

29 weeks oh my goodness

Wow, I am a terrible blogger. I am not sure where the last 10 weeks went but I’m here now and that’s what counts I hope?

In all honesty, I totally know where the weeks went. Summer happened, which means that we haven’t stopped to catch a breath for 3 months. Em and I have had something big to do (travel out of town, have guests staying with us, big events) every weekend since forever, and there’s no end in sight. In fact, I think the next weekend we have nothing huge to do is October 22, which give us exactly 3 “nothing” weekends between now and baby’s expect arrival. AHHH

Rather than trying to fill in every little thing that has happened since I was 19 weeks pregnant, I’m just going to go with a current update. Life-wise, I just got back from a weekend in Cleveland where my mom and sisters threw me a baby shower. Em didn’t come because we couldn’t find a weekend where we were both free to actually have the shower (see above) so we agreed to divide and conquer on this one. It was a lovely shower – totally beyond what I expected. Guests were asked to ship their gifts because we live in Boston and taking big things on a plane was basically not going to happen. But everyone brought a baby book to start our library, and the shower was book themed.


Adorable book-themed foods

My sisters went all out with the Pinterest inspired theme. It was a brunch shower, so they had an egg casserole (Green Eggs and Ham), muffins (If You Give a Moose a Muffin), veggies (Peter Rabbit), fruit in the shape of a caterpillar (The Very Hungry Caterpillar), Hershey kisses (A Kissing Hand), rainbow goldfish crackers (The Rainbow Fish), and a guessing game (Guess How Much I Love You). My sister also made one of those creepy/hilarious/awesome watermelon babies.



Em and I are both getting more and more excited about baby as things are getting more real. We had a little freak out about daycare but have since kind of maybe figured something out. We are on “the list” for a center that is really close to us. It’s a stretch to afford, but we are able to save some money by doing just 3 days/week and doing under 8 hour days (Em is going to be flexible and drop off just after 9/pick up right before 5). They can’t guarantee us a spot, but seemed confident that a number of spots would be opening in March/April. Given that we need to start in February, we’ll probably end up filling in with a short term nanny or something. We visited a bunch of home daycare providers, and just really didn’t love any of them. The one that we did like required us to come full time (or at least pay for it), so it wasn’t enough less than the center to feel good about. A few of the home daycares were really just awful. Em and I visited all of them together, and Em had set up all of the appointments. One of the places we visited a) forgot that we were even coming, b) was just not a warm fuzzy person anyway, and c) told me to call her when I had the baby and come back to visit with my husband. Uhhhhhh, who did she think Em was?! Just some assistant I hired to do all of my talking for me? What the hell. Anyway, daycare is terrifying and awful and I hate the idea of going back to work enough as it is so I hate the whole thing. I’m sure it’ll all come together, so I’m choosing not to stress about it anymore now that we have a sort-of plan.

So on to the bumpdate …

How far along? 29 weeks 4 days

Baby is the size of: A hawaiian pineapple

Total weight gain/loss: I think I have an overall gain of 8-10 pounds at this point.

Maternity clothes: All of them.

Coming out of the baby closet status: At this point everyone knows because I am obviously pregnant. I actually feel like people didn’t assume me pregnant out loud (they thought it but wouldn’t mention it without me mentioning it first) until about 2-3 weeks ago? I see new people every day because I see patients at a hospital. So I got to see a LOT of people look but choose not to say anything. I’m now at the point where people immediately ask when I’m due.

Have you started to show yet? I’m certainly obviously definitely pregnant.

Sleep: Aw man, sleep is rough. I get up 2-4 times each night. We did end up getting a new mattress – we got a Casper and totally love it. If anyone is in the market and interested in the Casper let me know because I can get you $50 off with a referral. Also my Snoogle is my saving grace. I didn’t have it with me in Cleveland over the weekend and totally noticed the difference.


The newest sleep issue is that I’m waking up to hip pain and having to flip over to my other side. Prior to this week, I’ve mostly been waking up to pee/because I was slightly uncomfortable. Now there’s the aspect of pain, which makes it a little harder to get back to sleep.

I feel like it sounds like I’m complaining – really more just trying to document. I actually really love being pregnant.

Best moment this week: The shower was really amazing. I felt so loved. I also came home from the shower to a clean house and to the guest room (soon-to-be-nursery) cleaned out and ready to be nested in. My wife and her dad had moved the guest bed into our office/memorabilia room (don’t ask – Em is a huge baseball fan and collector. And she is selflessly sharing her memorabilia room with our future guests) and cleaned out the now nursery entirely. Now all of our accumulated baby stuff is in the nursery! Unfortuantely, we haven’t yet gotten the furniture so it in no way actually looks like a nursery. We have a rolled up rug that we haven’t put down yet, are waiting on a backordered dresser (should be here in a week or two), hoping to get a Labor Day deal on the crib this weekend so that’s not ordered yet, and waiting 6-8 weeks for the chair that my parents just ordered for us this weekend as a shower gift. I’m so excited to see it all come together and having the room empty and ready to fulfill its new purpose is so exciting. Can you tell I’m feeling the nesting urge hard?

Miss Anything? Wine, sushi, and oysters

Movement: I’ve been feeling kicks consistently since about 19 weeks. Around 22 weeks, Em was able to feel them from the outside and it was such an amazing moment. One of my favorite from this pregnancy. I’ve been counting kicks once a day(ish) when I remember to/have the time to slow down enough to actually track and time it. But I feel a ton of movement these days. I really love love love the feeling of my baby moving around inside of me. It just makes me so happy.

Food cravings: I started having a few real cravings? My first craving, and the most common one since, has been donuts. Can’t get enough of the sugary carbs with no nutritional value ::eye roll::

I’m still eating fruit like no one’s business as well.

Anything making you queasy or sick? Nope

Symptoms: OK so the more weird and annoying symptoms are starting to emerge …
–  Numb thighs: Whenever I walk or stand for too long, my outer thigh(s) (usually just my right one, but sometimes the left or both) go numb. This goes away if I sit down for even just a minute. My OB said that I’m trapping a nerve. It is a really strange sensation and I’ve had to limit activities that involve too much standing/walking.
–  Peeing: Total TMI ahead. Since around 19 weeks I’ve, for lack of a better term, been leaking urine (ugh hate how that sounds). Basically my bladder is obviously squished and kinked or something so I don’t get everything out when I pee. I’ve had to develop some acrobatic tricks – now I have to move and lean in every direction for a minute after I finish and hope I get it all out. I feel like no one talks about this (probably because it’s weird and gross), but I have no time for shame. I do allow myself some time for annoyance though haha. Anyway turns out Thinx (the period underwear) also have another brand called Icon that are designed for this very issue, so I bought a few pairs. I wish that the built in padding went up higher, but I otherwise recommend them if you are having this weird issue and are sick of panty liners. UGH
– Aches and pains: The aches and pains are starting to show up but are manageable. Mostly it’s lower back and hip pain when I’m sleeping.
– Swelling: I’m starting to notice swelling in my hands and feet, but pretty much only after I’ve been standing/walking a lot (especially out in the heat) or on an airplane. I took 2 airplane trips recently so I feel like this symptom is exacerbated by the flights. I am NOT wearing my wedding ring at the moment, but hoping that another day post-flight will get me back to ring-wearing size.

Purchases: Em and I had a fun nighttime adventure in Carters recently, just letting ourselves get excited and buy some clothes. We got only sale items and probably 5-6 things total? It was pretty exciting. And the shower gifts have been rolling in, which we are so grateful for. So we now have the pack n plan/infant station for our bedroom, a Baby Bjorn bouncer, 2 carriers (Bjorn One and K’tan), lots and lots of books, a few clothing items, a Boppy, a hamper, and some other assorted items that I can’t think of right now!

Looking forward to: I’m really looking forward to our Boston shower that our friends are throwing for us in a few weeks. We are also going camping this weekend which I’m excited (and a little trepidatious) about. We are bringing a battery operated air mattress, so hopefully it won’t be awful and uncomfortable.

I really hope I’ll be able to keep us this blogging thing through the third trimester. I really neglected the poor second trimester and want to give this one its due. So hopefully see you back here soon! Happy Tuesday 🙂


Finally surged this afternoon! Day 31, yeesh. Waiting for a call back from the RE on scheduling for IUI #1 tomorrow.

Also I was a bit of a loon and did an extra test this afternoon. This AM looked SO close to positive but was negative on the Clear Blue digital so I got a little obsessed with “catching” it … My RE is going to be so ashamed haha.

Here we go!



Well, it is CD23 and I finally got a positive OPK test strip! I was getting worried that I wasn’t going to ovulate this cycle, and that my ovulation would not regulate in general (which would obviously make it hard to make a baby). Phew. My cycles have never been regular enough to really know, but my inclination is that my cycle would be relatively long so I’m not shocked that I O’d so late. Just pleased it is happening at all. Anyone else have this long of cycles? If my luteal phase is the same length as last month I can expect to have a 37 day cycle. Is that crazy long? Will it affect my fertility down the road? surge_can1I’m so happy to be one step closer. My baby fever is showing no signs of breaking …

5 weeks

Just 5 more weeks until our next appointment with the RE. I was actually surprised it was that close. I had convinced myself we had another 2 months left still.

I really wish I had more to write about here. It’s just all of this waiting … it’s dragging me down.

In terms of donors – we have it narrowed down to two that we like. I’m thinking our next step is going to have to be to buy a couple of the “extras” to compare/contrast some more. We narrowed it down and then kind of let it be for a bit. We still have to wait until I get a viral panel done before we can order the swimmers, and the nurse practitioner at our RE’s office was willing to order it but it just felt like it could wait a bit.

I’ve been charting my temps and CM since CD2, and my chart is all over the place. Fertility Friend has guessed I ovulated twice in the last week, and reneged both times. Now, I know it was wrong (or, I’m pretty sure), because I’ve been using OPKs in anticipation with no luck.

So, I guess I’m feeling confused, stuck, and a bit ambivalent at the moment. But mostly impatient. I’m guessing that’ll be a theme for quite a while. My next step is confirming ovulation with an OPK this month … hopefully that happens in the next few days, so fingers crossed!

Hello, and Where We Are

I’m glad I finally broke down and started a blog to document this whole TTC thing. I like to read, I like to write, and I love to procrastinate. Sounds like a perfect storm for blogging, so here I am. While I am absolutely clueless as to how long this blog will last or what direction it will head in, I’m glad I’m at least starting out with somewhere to record my thoughts – and hopefully find some folks to cheer on and commiserate with.

I think it prudent to begin with where we are thus far:

I have PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome), which is a common, likely genetic, endocrine disorder that causes fertility issues due to anovulation (aka NOT ovulating, at least not regularly). PCOS is characterized by lots of weird and annoying things like excessive hair growth (not on the head – that would be too convenient – think more on the face, arms, back …), irregular periods, and “central obesity” (aka being overweight particularly in the midsection/torso area). Anyway, this pesky little acronym is going to make things difficult for me in the baby making arena. Thus, it is likely a waste of time and money for my wife and me to try temping/charting and inseminating at home, as my cycles are weird and ovulation is not guaranteed. SO, all that being said, our path thus far had to start with a series of medical appointments.

I hit up my primary care doctor first, hoping that she would prescribe meds that I had taken years ago – progesterone and then Metformin – to get me having a period and hopefully ovulating. Of course, she wanted to run a bunch of tests first, then referred me to a gynecologist. The GYN’s primary concern was that I get a period (I hadn’t had one in a few months) – he was not really concerned with or thinking about getting me pregnant – his focus was on me not developing any pre-cancerous situation by not shedding my lining for too long (I can get on board with that). When I asked, he then referred me to a Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE) to get things rolling in the baby making department.

That brings us to a couple of weeks ago – the wife and I saw my RE for a consultation. She was lovely, answered all of our questions, and quelled some of my fears (particularly the “I’m never going to have a baby ever because my body hates me” fears). Annoyingly, though, she jumped right in talking about inducing ovulation with Clomid and what the risks and benefits are, etc … Whoa whoa, hold the phone. It seemed like a jumping to conclusions given that we don’t actually KNOW that I’m not ovulating. Luckily, she was great when I asked if we had to jump right into Clomid. She started me on a “trial” of Metformin for a few months. I’m hopeful that it will kick start my hormone loop and get my body back in business a bit more naturally. Prior to my recent dry spell (literally), I had been having a period every month (consistent but not regular?). So I am hoping that I do have the chance of jumping into a somewhat regular cycle on Metformin. Of course – if that doesn’t work – Clomid, here we come.

Does anyone have Metformin success/not-so-much-success stories?


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