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11 weeks

Ugh so my phone has been super weird of late and WordPress kept crashing for no reason … hence the delayed bumpdate. But here I am now anyway! Not too much new to report this week. I am still waiting to hear from the OB’s office whether/when to wean off the baby aspirin and Merformin. I’ve been waiting like a week and a half so I feel like they maybe just forgot to call … I should probably check in with them tomorrow. 

How far along? 11 weeks 2 days

Baby is the size of: a Brussles sprout or a fig

Total weight gain/loss: I think I’m down about a pound at this point.

Maternity clothes: Permanently in the land of stretchy waistbands because holy comfort, Batman. When I say permanently, I mean that I started before I got pregnant and never plan to stop.

Coming out of the baby closet status: At this point, all of the inner circle of family and friends are in the know, plus a few others with whom we seized “in person” opportunities. I think we’ll be ready to share more widely after the generic ultrasound at 12 weeks.

Have you started to show yet? Still rocking the bloat baby. But no worries, dress pant yoga pants to the rescue 🙂

Sleep: I actually think the exhaustion is starting to ease a little bit? Just a little bit. I find myself able to stay awake until 9:30 or so these days (small victories haha). I am definitely not comfortable at night, and waking up at least once which is strange for me. 

Best moment this week: I’m not sure! I’m generally feeling more confident in the pregnancy so overall less anxiety perhaps? 

Miss Anything? Enjoying food

Movement: nope

Food cravings: Nah

Anything making you queasy or sick? Still feeling apathetic toward a lot of foods, especially meats. And the SMELLS (ugh, man, the smells) … They are not helping one bit. 

Symptoms: Mainly fatigue (which seems to be improving maybe?), some trouble sleeping, low key queasiness, and foods/smells turning me off.

Purchases: Nope.

Looking forward to: Genetic ultrasound in 2 weeks, telling people, and my mom (and I think my dad too?) visiting for mother’s day weekend!


10 weeks

Ah! Double digits! OK so the most notable thing about this week was my first appointment at my OB’s office. I may have already said this, but the way my OB office works is that I have an OB as well as a midwife – both of whom I’ll see/communicate with throughout the pregnancy.I met with the midwife for my first appointment. Anyway it was very long (lots of questions and background info and talking about testing options), but I am excited because I really liked the midwife! So that’s great. AND she was able to find the baby’s heartbeat with the doppler at the end of the appointment. I was SO excited to hear its little heart beating away. It took her a minute or two to find the heartbeat, during which time I was silently freaking the fuck out. But she did find it and it was very cool to hear. And I love getting those little bits of reassurance.

My next appointment is with an OB (not actually my OB that I picked because she didn’t have May availability – so I’m meeting with another one first) and is in 4 weeks. I opted to do the ERA screening for genetic issues (nuchal fold ultrasound and bloodwork), and was able to schedule that in 2 weeks, so I’m glad I’ll have another “reassurance” to look forward to rather than waiting a month for my next chance to hear the heartbeat. Hopefully all goes well with that ultrasound of course.

Okay, on to the bumpdate …

How far along? 10 weeks

Baby is the size of: a kumquat! Em has been calling it “Olive” for the past week. We’ll see if she decides to call it “Kumquat” or if that just feels too weird for her haha.

Total weight gain/loss: 0 (although I had 2 bags of Cheez-Its and some gummy worms today, so perhaps this won’t be the case tomorrow).

Maternity clothes: Permanently in the land of stretchy waistbands because holy comfort, Batman. When I say permanently, I mean that I started before I got pregnant and never plan to stop.

Coming out of the baby closet status: I swear I started out this pregnancy with the best of intentions to tell JUST family and a small group of close friends (5-10 people) about the pregnancy before the end of the first trimester. But, you know, the best laid plans …

So this week I ended up telling 2 new people at work. Like, good “workplace proximity associates” (a la Ron Swanson) who knew about us trying and I have lunch with regularly and even see outside of work. Which is really no big deal, but the list does seem to be growing faster than I want it to. Em and I also had dinner with friends who we don’t get to see that often, so we told the 2 of them as well, seizing the “in person” opportunity.

Overall, more people know than I had previously planned, but the circle is still pretty small and close. Getting excited that we can start to think about how we’ll announce to extended family and then everyone else in a few weeks!

Have you started to show yet? Still a bloat baby. But no worries, dress pant yoga pants to the rescue 🙂

Sleep: I’m still super exhausted all the time. I took a nap on my desk today after lunch. Still hitting the hay between 8:30 and 9pm.

Best moment this week: Getting to hear the little one’s heartbeat at my initial OB appointment! Also meeting the midwife and feeling more excited about the pregnancy overall (basically feeling like I can think past today and even picturing myself in the 2nd and 3rd trimester).

Miss Anything? Nothing huge this week. I still think about wine and get a little sad when I can’t have my glass with dinner, but I wouldn’t say I “miss” it. I do get a little jealous of people eating real sushi when I go out for sushi now – since I’m stuck with vegetables and cooked stuff.

Movement: nope

Food cravings: Today I had a strong need for snacks at like 10:30 and 4:00. Unfortunately, I decided on Cheez-Its in the morning, Cheez-Its in the afternoon, (Cheez-Its at suppertime …) with a bonus side dish of a bag of gummy worms. I regret it all. I have no idea why I wanted gummy worms because I don’t ever want gummy worms. But I ate them all. So maybe a craving? Or just temporary insanity. Poor choices.

Anything making you queasy or sick? Still feeling pretty apathetic toward food – especially meats of all varieties. I’ve noticed that the foods that don’t automatically turn me off are usually meat-free. I’ve never had any trouble with breakfast (which is usually an English muffin, an egg with a little cheese on one half, and some sort of fruit), and I’m much more likely to eat vegetarian meals without issue (like pasta dishes and such). Which is kind of strange because I don’t even like pasta. But there you have it.

Oh! Guys! I threw up for the first time on Wednesday. And probably/hopefully the only time? I really have not been feeling much nausea at all. It peaked week 8 and has decreased from there. BUT my gag reflex has been intense (anyone else notice this?) and on Wednesday morning I gagged twice while brushing my teeth. It didn’t happen right away, but it was the gag that set my stomach off and I held off getting sick for a good 2 minutes and then just gave in. It was very strange because I didn’t feel crappy before or after really. Just during. I know this is probably super annoying for people who have bad morning sickness to read, so I’m sorry for that. I know I’ve been lucky.

Symptoms: A little bit of queasiness still lingers, most notably when I’m hungry. The fatigue is still my most notable symptom really, and I’m still having some dry skin. Oh! I keep forgetting but this WHOLE pregnancy I have been freaking FREEZING. I’ve always run a little on the cold side, but this is definitely a couple of steps up from my usual self. I’m just cold all the time! Right now at work my thermostat says 75 (it always runs a little high – but the norm is 72-74 for when I feel comfortable) and I’m wearing a sweater AND a fleece. It’s weird. I googled it and am now concerned that maybe I’ve developed a pregnancy-related thyroid issue, so I e-mailed my midwife to see if she needs to add a test to the blood panel I’ll do at 12 weeks. I’m sure it’s no big deal, but it is kind of weird. Anyone else just freaking cold all the time?

Purchases: Nope.

Looking forward to: Genetic ultrasound in 2 weeks, and my mom (and I think my dad too?) visiting for mother’s day weekend!

9 weeks

Oops … I forgot to do my Friday update. And by “forgot” I of course mean “decided to sleep instead.”

I’m super happy to report that we had our second ultrasound last week and it went really well. The baby is still growing on schedule, and its little heart was beating 176 beats per minute! We even got to see him/her wiggling their little arms and legs. It was super cool and, as each passing blood test/ultrasound has done, it boosted my confidence in the fact that I’m actually pregnant. I still spend a lot of time worrying and anxious, but I think it’s getting a little easier to believe/trust.


The circular thing on the right is the yolk sac. The rest is the little one, with its head on the right. You can kind of see its little limbs even!

It’s crazy how much it changed in just 2 weeks. It looks much more human now.

How far along? 9 weeks 3 days

Baby is the size of: a medium green olive? (I don’t eat olives so this helps me not at all) a southern pecan? (also allergic to nuts so … again … not very helpful)

Total weight gain/loss: Still sitting pretty at 0

Maternity clothes: Permanently in the land of stretchy waistbands because holy comfort, Batman. When I say permanently, I mean that I started before I got pregnant and never plan to stop.

Coming out of the baby closet status: So I have both good and bad “coming out” stories this week. I say I start with the bad and graduate to the good – do you agree?

  1. (This is probably going to be an unnecessarily long story … #sorrynotsorry) I am a speech-language pathologist at a Children’s Hospital. Most of my job is evaluations, and we have a waiting list that is about 6 months long. This means that my schedule books out around 6 months most of the time. This is annoying because I have to plan vacations in mega-advance. It is also annoying because, right at this moment, I am already booked through the end of October. We are down 1.5 clinicians and the rest of us have had to absorb those caseloads which (obviously) make ours bigger. Anyway, I did NOT want to have to reveal my pregnancy at work yet, but I also did not want to be responsible for having to call and reschedule a billion patients once they started booking into November. So last week, I told our admin that I’m pregnant and had her block my schedule from the beginning of November (I want to have a couple of weeks of flexibility before I leave) through mid-February. Of course, this immediately caused a ruckus with the front desk ladies (who may as well have the additional title of “gossip mongers”) when one of my patients tried to schedule a follow up, so I ended up feeling forced to tell one of them as well. I’m basically assuming that the front desk ladies have, at this point, talked amongst themselves and I am no longer having an easy time making eye contact with them. The thing that really bums me out is that I didn’t feel at all in control of the information. And I like to be in control. But I’m going to have a child soon so I should probably just let it go, eh? Sigh.
  2. In the good news column, however … we told my siblings yesterday! I am the oldest of 4 and the whole family tries to video chat about twice a month or so on Sundays. I’ve been really looking forward to telling the sibs but wanted to wait until after the most recent ultrasound, so I decided our “Sunday Funday” Google Hangout would be a great time. It was a bitch and a half to schedule the hangout because my parents are in San Fransisco this weekend (3 hours earlier in terms of time zones) and my youngest sister is currently living in Prague for a few months for work (6 hours later). It somehow all worked out though, and they are all really excited. My brother cried, which was very sweet, and both of my sisters did a lot of squealing and jumping. They’re all going to be excellent aunts and uncles, and this is the first grand baby, so there were lots of positive vibes and excitement.

Have you started to show yet? Just a bloat baby. But no worries, dress pant yoga pants to the rescue 🙂

Sleep: I. Am. So. Tired. All. The. Time. Still hitting the hay between 8:30 and 9pm, which is a little rough on my relationship with Em because I essentially come home from work, eat dinner (sort of – see things making me sick below), make her give me my progesterone shot, then fall asleep.

Best moment this week: The ultrasound was really great! It was awesome to see the little one wiggling around and watch its little heart beat like crazy. We also officially “graduated” from the Reproductive Endocrinologist to a regular old OB/GYN! My RE did some blood work to check on my hormone levels and was able to give me a weaning schedule for all of the fertility meds. I actually feel like I’m weaning sooner than most people I’ve read about?? My RE said that the placenta has taken over at least 80% at this point, and should be producing 100% of the hormones I need by week 10, so she was comfortable weaning right away. I weaned off of Estradiol within 3 days of the appointment (so was off it right around the 9 week mark), and I decreased my Progesterone to 1cc/night. I’ll be off the Progesterone entirely once I hit 10 weeks. They told me to stop the Aspirin (actually they didn’t mention it and I asked), but I didn’t. I don’t know why I didn’t listen to that particular advice but I just felt like stopping everything at once sounded scary and I’m a little concerned because my circulation has always been not the best (I’m that girl whose nose and fingers are always freezing). I’m going to call and ask about it this week, and express my concerns re: circulation. I just don’t want to invite trouble that may have been preventable – especially since most people I read about are staying on all of these drugs through the first trimester.

Miss Anything? Being able to stay awake and interact with my wife on weekdays (also sex. Because tired.)

Movement: nope

Food cravings: Not really. I am having LOTS of what I’d call “food apathy” – and the only thing that I’m really willing to eat during those moments seems to be soft pretzels with mustard. So maybe that? Though it doesn’t really feel like a craving per se.

Anything making you queasy or sick? I’ve been having very apathetic feelings towards all food, especially at lunch and dinner. Nothing sounds good to me except for soft pretzels. I try to have green smoothies with breakfast to load myself up with some nutrients, but even those are just not interesting to me right now. It’s not that I’m not hungry – and most of the time I will eventually settle on something to eat out of “not getting nauseous” necessity, but I just don’t want anything and sometimes the idea of eating makes me queasy.

Symptoms: The nausea has ramped up a bit this past week, but is still really mild compared to what I’ve heard from other people. It’s just kind of a queasy feeling that usually lasts from like 10am til whenever (sometimes just til after lunch, sometimes the rest of the day). It’s definitely worse when my stomach is empty. Also the fatigue is for serious. I guess this baby wants me to save up on sleep so I’m ready when (s)he comes out and never lets me sleep again. I’m also having some dry skin, and am currently slightly concerned that I may be developing a yeast infection (ugh).

Purchases: Nope.

Looking forward to: My first appointment at my OB’s office. The way my office works is that I will work with my OB as well as a midwife throughout the pregnancy. The midwives are all CNMs (certified nurse midwives – so they are registered nurses with additional midwife schooling and licensure), and will be my first point of contact for non-emergencies throughout the pregnancy. During my third trimester, I can choose who I want to deliver the baby (midwife vs. OB). All new patients meet with the midwife for the first appointment, and then with the OB 4 weeks later (and I’ll see the OB every 4 weeks throughout the pregnancy until things ramp up at the end I guess). So I have an appointment with the midwife on Thursday! I’ll be 9 weeks 6 days. I assume that they’ll try to hear the heartbeat via doppler – does that sound like a reasonable expectation? I have no idea what to expect. I presume that the focus will be going over my medical history and this pregnancy so far, medications, weight, etc. I was told to expect this to be about a half hour, and the appointments with the OB to be about 15 minutes each. I’m excited to get started down the “normal” pregnancy path and meet the midwife.


8 weeks

I’m sitting at my desk trying so so hard not to fall asleep directly on my keyboard. So hard, you guys. I’m not actually getting any work done due to the fact that I’m spending all my energy staying awake. Thought about giving in and just falling asleep, decided to do a bumpdate instead (/first?)

How far along? 8 weeks

Baby is the size of: wild strawberry, plump raspberry … I dunno, bigger than last week?

Total weight gain/loss: I’m down about a pound and a half – but my “starting” weight is pretty skewed by IVF meds. Overall, things are about status quo.

Maternity clothes: Permanently in the land of stretchy waistbands because holy comfort, Batman. When I say permanently, I mean that I started before I got pregnant and never plan to stop.

Coming out of the baby closet status: We told Em’s mom and (by accident) her sister this past weekend. Em’s mom was as excited as I expected – and her reaction was just what Em needed (she was worried that her mom wouldn’t react the way she had hoped – last minute out-of-nowhere fears that her mom won’t feel like a grandmother because there’s no biological relationship? This was really very out of nowhere and was probably just a moment of excitement and nerves and not a real fear/feeling). We had wrapped up the little cutesy sign we got her that says “The best moms get promoted to grandma.” She didn’t see the writing at first and it was hilarious watching her try to muster a “thank you” for what she thought was a tiny, rectangular, wooden container? Anyway it went well.

Then Em’s sister came to visit and her mom hadn’t put away the sign. So … oops I guess? That “reveal” didn’t go as planned but she is happy for us and we’re happy she is in the know.

Have you started to show yet? Still bloated. At one point this weekend, mother-in-law said “Katie, are you showing?” … to which I growled.

Sleep: Definitely feeling the fatigue at all times. Also waking up once or twice at night the last couple of nights. I don’t know if this is pregnancy related (is it?), but it’s definitely not my norm.

Best moment this week: Hmmmm hard to say. Everything is pretty status quo at the moment. Oh! I found out another friend is pregnant – just a couple of weeks behind me – and am SO excited to have another buddy who’s pregnant at the same time!

Miss Anything? Wine, being able to stay awake past 9pm

Movement: nope

Food cravings: Not really.

Anything making you queasy or sick? I’ve been feeling what I would define as mild nausea (if that), usually in the morning time but generally when I haven’t eaten. Eating seems to help it. This morning was the first time I felt like I might actually be sick. I had my breakfast in the car with me, and I reallllyyy didn’t feel great taking the first few bites but just knew I had to get it in me and sure enough, I felt better by the time I got to work.

Symptoms: Symptoms are still pretty mild and fleeting. Super mild nausea, very briefly, at least once per day. But you guys, it’s SO mild. It’s concerning. My mom tells me that she didn’t ever get morning sickness, and she had 5 pregnancies (1 late first tri miscarriage, 4 kids), so I suppose I could just be genetically predisposed for an easy first trimester. Here’s hoping. Other symptoms (that come and go and aren’t really as notable as they seem when I write them down): fatigue, heartburn, peeing slightly more than usual.

Purchases: Nada.

Looking forward to: Ultrasound on Tuesday! I’ll be 8 weeks 4 days. And then I apparently “graduate” to my OB (who I haven’t chosen yet, by the way … ugh).


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