Goodness. I haven’t done a survey since maybe MySpace was a thing? Gotta do something to fill the time though! Just waiting on AF to make her on-time appearance next week, and then waiting for our RE appointment to happen in April.
Anyway, thanks to S over at Infertile Myrtle for providing this procrastinatory fodder.
Random Relationship Survey
–How old are you?
–How old is your spouse?
–How long have you been married?
–How long have you been together?
–Where did you meet?
Honestly? At a production of the Vagina Monologues at our college. One of my favorite stories that most people don’t know (because, how am I going to tell that to my aunt when she asks how we met?!)
–Where was your first date?
Oh, at some terrible mini-chain American place. I don’t remember much about the food part, but we did also go to an a capella concert on campus that evening which was awesome and sweaty-palm-filled.
–Who made the first move?
My dear wife. She also made the second, third, and fourth moves …
–Who was the first to say “I love you”?
I think that was me! I also think I was drunk when it happened which doesn’t make for a very romantic story. We’ve said “I love you” many many much more romantic times since.
She proposed. We had a conversation early(ish) on in the relationship that somehow cemented that she would propose, and just went with it. We went together to pick out her engagement ring right after it happened though (okay, maybe I called everyone in my phone right after, but we went to get her a ring right after that).
–Do you both want children?
Absolutely. I have wanted children since I was probably 3 or something. My wife warmed up to the idea a bit more slowly, but always knew it was a deal breaker for me. At the current moment, she is just as baby crazy as I am. We were mamas for a short while to a foster child last year, and since then have really felt the parental urges yanking us toward starting our forever family ASAP.
–Do you own a house?
–It’s cleaning day! You divvy up the chores, who does what?
Almost everything in the kitchen, my wife handles. This includes washing and putting away dishes, cooking, food shopping, etc.
I do all of the floors (even in the kitchen – gasp), dusting, bathroom cleaning, and tidying in the rest of the house.
She takes care of the pup and all of the doggy-related chores.
We split the laundry
– What do you like to do in your free time together?
During the week we love relaxing together with the dog – watching TV, playing games, etc. We have a ping pong table and play almost every night (we’re both kind of competitive … it gets a little tense). We like to have a show we are binge watching at any given moment. The default is Friends, but we go through phases – The West Wing, Golden Girls, Queer as Folk, Orange is the New Black … but it’s always something! We try to get out and take long walks with the pup on the weekends. When it’s warm outside, we like to explore neighborhoods and kayak.
–How’s the action?
Haha how do I answer this? If I say it’s “good” you’ll think why not great?!. If I say it’s “great” or “awesome” or “earth shattering,” you’ll think …ah, well I am not sure I wanted to know that. Or geez, TMI. Well, it is all of those things at different moments. So there ya go.
–Who is the first to apologize?
That would be me. And I usually do so over and over until I have worked myself into a tizzy that she hasn’t apologized back – usually spawning a whole other fight.
–Where would you like to live and raise your family, if not in your current area?
We’re in a city now. Our biggest goal is to live in a single family home in a suburb close to a city. It’s important to us to be somewhere that our family will be accepted, where our children won’t have to worry too much about the community being judgmental. Special bonus? – lower cost of living 🙂 All that said, we really like where we live.
–Which one of you gets to control the remote?
Definitely the wife. I can’t be trusted to remember to fast forward through commercials 😉
– Guilty pleasures as a couple?
Binge watching silly TV shows over and over. And also dessert.
–What do you think makes a relationship last?
Communication, a sense of humor, compromise, and a commitment to each other and the long haul. Hugs don’t hurt.